Quote of the Day:
"Are we about to get it on? 'Cuz I'm as hard as a diamond in an ice storm right now." - Ricky Bobby, Talladega Nights
Well, my best friend of 12-13 years has decided not to be a good friend lately. Actually, she's taken the necessary steps towards behavior of enemy proportions. Now I won't bore you with the details (plus I'm tired of regaling this convoluted story yet again), but in short, my bestie, her boyfriend, and another buddy decided to try to ruin my New Year's Eve by being immature, offensive, hateful, petty 12 year-olds. My boyfriend and I were called things that rhyme with bike, hunt, and wussy.... among other ridiculous things.
We determined that this behavior was a result of our decision to not attend her New Year's Eve party. My bestie has always been on the self-centered side and tends to raise a lot of unnecessary Hell when she doesn't get her way. I met up with the three culprits a few days later, hoping for an apology for such "bad friend" behavior. Ha! No such luck. It has been almost 2 weeks since New Years Eve and I have received nothing but either nonexistent, half-assed placating apologies or "yes, buts..." from all three of them
Here's the thing: you insult my boyfriend, you insult me. You call my boyfriend (or any Jew, for that matter) a rhymes-with-"bike", you call me a rhymes-with-"bike." If my boyfriend called my best friend a rhymes-with-"bunt", I would be very upset with him. I would be mortified that the man I'm in a relationship with could be such a lousy person.
But no. My best friend (really my only close girl friend) has totally disregarded my anger and she wants to carry on like nothing's happened. I would love nothing more than to act like nothing's happened and be besties again, but I don't think I can do that. I don't know how I can remain friends with someone who is that willing to hurt me. I don't know if she realizes how hurtful she was. She (and her boyfriend and my other buddy) said things that would be considered below the belt by even an enemy. I can't forgive her if she won't even try to make things right.
What would you do? When a longtime friend hurts you so badly and won't admit how wrong they were, where do you go from there?
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Wednesday, January 12, 2011
The Haters, the Bigots, and Me
Quote of the Day:
"Are we about to get it on? 'Cuz I'm as hard as a diamond in an ice storm right now." - Ricky Bobby, Talladega Nights
Well, my best friend of 12-13 years has decided not to be a good friend lately. Actually, she's taken the necessary steps towards behavior of enemy proportions. Now I won't bore you with the details (plus I'm tired of regaling this convoluted story yet again), but in short, my bestie, her boyfriend, and another buddy decided to try to ruin my New Year's Eve by being immature, offensive, hateful, petty 12 year-olds. My boyfriend and I were called things that rhyme with bike, hunt, and wussy.... among other ridiculous things.
We determined that this behavior was a result of our decision to not attend her New Year's Eve party. My bestie has always been on the self-centered side and tends to raise a lot of unnecessary Hell when she doesn't get her way. I met up with the three culprits a few days later, hoping for an apology for such "bad friend" behavior. Ha! No such luck. It has been almost 2 weeks since New Years Eve and I have received nothing but either nonexistent, half-assed placating apologies or "yes, buts..." from all three of them
Here's the thing: you insult my boyfriend, you insult me. You call my boyfriend (or any Jew, for that matter) a rhymes-with-"bike", you call me a rhymes-with-"bike." If my boyfriend called my best friend a rhymes-with-"bunt", I would be very upset with him. I would be mortified that the man I'm in a relationship with could be such a lousy person.
But no. My best friend (really my only close girl friend) has totally disregarded my anger and she wants to carry on like nothing's happened. I would love nothing more than to act like nothing's happened and be besties again, but I don't think I can do that. I don't know how I can remain friends with someone who is that willing to hurt me. I don't know if she realizes how hurtful she was. She (and her boyfriend and my other buddy) said things that would be considered below the belt by even an enemy. I can't forgive her if she won't even try to make things right.
What would you do? When a longtime friend hurts you so badly and won't admit how wrong they were, where do you go from there?
"Are we about to get it on? 'Cuz I'm as hard as a diamond in an ice storm right now." - Ricky Bobby, Talladega Nights
Well, my best friend of 12-13 years has decided not to be a good friend lately. Actually, she's taken the necessary steps towards behavior of enemy proportions. Now I won't bore you with the details (plus I'm tired of regaling this convoluted story yet again), but in short, my bestie, her boyfriend, and another buddy decided to try to ruin my New Year's Eve by being immature, offensive, hateful, petty 12 year-olds. My boyfriend and I were called things that rhyme with bike, hunt, and wussy.... among other ridiculous things.
We determined that this behavior was a result of our decision to not attend her New Year's Eve party. My bestie has always been on the self-centered side and tends to raise a lot of unnecessary Hell when she doesn't get her way. I met up with the three culprits a few days later, hoping for an apology for such "bad friend" behavior. Ha! No such luck. It has been almost 2 weeks since New Years Eve and I have received nothing but either nonexistent, half-assed placating apologies or "yes, buts..." from all three of them
Here's the thing: you insult my boyfriend, you insult me. You call my boyfriend (or any Jew, for that matter) a rhymes-with-"bike", you call me a rhymes-with-"bike." If my boyfriend called my best friend a rhymes-with-"bunt", I would be very upset with him. I would be mortified that the man I'm in a relationship with could be such a lousy person.
But no. My best friend (really my only close girl friend) has totally disregarded my anger and she wants to carry on like nothing's happened. I would love nothing more than to act like nothing's happened and be besties again, but I don't think I can do that. I don't know how I can remain friends with someone who is that willing to hurt me. I don't know if she realizes how hurtful she was. She (and her boyfriend and my other buddy) said things that would be considered below the belt by even an enemy. I can't forgive her if she won't even try to make things right.
What would you do? When a longtime friend hurts you so badly and won't admit how wrong they were, where do you go from there?
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